Polyamory and Self Love

When I first set about directing the Poly Sex Confidential documentary in 2010, there were few people that knew about the polyamory lifestyle.

When I moved to Vancouver I discovered a vast array of poly people in a network called Van Poly. And now, across the globe, people have started to be curious of what polyamory is and if indeed it would be a viable option for relationships in the 21st century.

It was during this time that I discovered positive sexual experiences, open relationships, non-monogamy and consensual, healthy disclosure of other loves. Within this community I learned about my own insecurities and jealousies, and about a term called “compersion” that means to celebrate your primary beloved being in love with another.

Essential polyamory means love of many. It is a mutually agreed upon arrangement with consenting adults that is non exclusive.

The emphasis is on personal discovery and healthy emotional communication that is honest, and within values and principles that encourage deeply bonding with multiple relationships in a loving way.

The more I began searching for information by reading books called Sex At Dawn by Christopher Ryan or Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton, the more capable I was to use my non-violent communication skills to better equip myself in this new found lifestyle that questioned the nuclear family marriage of only two people.

That lifestyle used to make sense in the 50s perhaps, but doesn’t make a lot of sense to someone like me who loves travel, communication, technology and is affectionate with many beautiful people.

I still find myself attracted to relationships that resemble primary bonding, yet now that I know about polyamory, I am more likely going to fall in love with many people and my beloved will fall in love with many people during this brief lifetime. Now that I have accepted that, I feel as though there is so much more emotional expansiveness and love to share.

Life is so temporary, so it’s refreshing to know that there are so many beautiful people in the world to love. There is an abundance of people that have so much in common with me and now that I am learning about self love, it multiplies.

Self Love found its way into my polyamory lifestyle since every relationship is a mirror, we are confronted with our shadow side and our loving beautiful selves right back at us.

It is the way in which we learn how to love ourselves, radical self acceptance, engaged compassion for others, and for ourselves. It has enabled me to learn how to love more people because I have learned to love myself.

This is the transformational journey of the Great Turning towards a humanity that can transmute great fear into great love, and through self love and love of many I feel this is the way humans can move towards greater peace and harmony.

Tanya Lee Hamilton aka My Mom is the Surprise Guest at What is Art? Screening Directed by Lester Alfonso tonight at Sadleir House at 9pm

My Mom Tanya Lee Hamilton is the star in Against All Odds CHEX TV Peterborough program is celebrating 22 years since she had a car accident with a Freight Train, on Friday March 13th, 1992 when she was 32 and I was 12 years old, we still have her and what a blessing she is! she is coming as the guest to What is Art? Directed by Lester Alfonso she will speak about her experience of art therapy, Come to Sadleir House at 9pm tonight to check out MAP Media Arts Peterborough event of the documentary web series What is Art? www.youtube.com/watch?v=vqNzpR3pfBk #tanyaleehamilton,#whatisart#art #documentary #webseries #peterborough #sadleirhouse#lesteralfonso #mediaartspeterborough

Lester Alfonso / M.A.P.

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Amazing blog about M.A.P. Media Arts Peterborough & Lester Alfonso

Originally posted on Trout in Plaid:

Lester Alfonso Watching Lester Alfonso volley ideas flying around the room during the Media Arts Peterborough potluck at Artspace is like watching championship table tennis. High and low ideas for M.A.P.’s open source film project are coming from the crowd, with themes that range from zombies to a daughter’s journey to find the father she never knew. Alfonso has not shot down a single one of them – he somehow finds a way to fit it in to a larger concept. He puts out the call –  does anyone want to be cameraman? Any musicians out there who want to write a score for the video? He pulls us all in. He’s a teacher, he’s a juggler. I knew he was an accomplished filmmaker, but I didn’t know that he was also a talented community animator.

Media Arts Peterborough is Alfonso’s vision of an open studio film co-operative, designed to provide the…

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WHAT IS ART? Ep. 1 “Art is Everything.” A FILM by Lester Alfonso

WHAT IS ART? Ep 1 “Art is Everything.” A FILM BY Lester Alfonso MUSIC BY Nostalgic Home Highways APPEARING: Myself, Jesse Goodrice, Angel Hamilton, Tessa Nasca, Myles Conner, Thomas Canada Vaccaro, Ian Smith, Jimmy Lightshow Reedyk, John Marris, Nancy Simmons Smith, Bethany Taylor, Bronson Smith, Marc Roy, John Chartrand, Toby Tylor, Ray McGirl, Peter Mettler, Alanis King, Michael Ketemer, Su Ditta, Esther Vincent, Jon Hedderwick, Zan Bilz, David Bigg, Michael Weber, Janet Howse, Cody Shadzik, Sasha Patterson, Suzanne Moreau, Lisa McKaskell, Anna Carman Currier, Annie Jaeger, Dorothy Caldwell, Doug Andrews, Tanya Connolly, Peterborough Roller Derby League, Tanya Lee Hamilton, Rick Amsbury, Tony Lagana, Sean Eyre, Ashlin Boustead, Sebastian Deery, Opal Jennifer Elchuk and more… With help from Paul Caleb, Chris Chapman, Angela Kirley, Michael Morritt and thanks to all our members and supporters!